Good morning,
I am someone with plenty of experience in using dating apps to make connections in this big, crazy city that is New York.
When filling out an online dating profile, there is always a section for a short paragraph where you describe yourself and what you are looking for in a relationship.
People will list the type of relationship they are looking for (long or short term), whether they would like to start a family, and their preference where religious or spiritual practices are concerned.
They will also list what they don't want, such as "no hook-ups or one-night stands".
Something I have noticed that appears in numerous dating profiles is
"No liars, no cheats, and no drama."
When someone includes that in their profile, whether they know it or not, they are sharing their relationship patterns. Most of us don't want liars, cheats, or drama,
but we only express something like that aloud (or typed) if it is something we have already experienced more than once.
Dating can be a lot of fun, but it is also
frustrating when you keep connecting with the wrong types of prospective partners.
This week in the podcast I have a conversation with Stefan Gonick, who explains why we fall into these types of
patterns and, more importantly, how to overcome them.
Even if you aren't currently looking for your soulmate, you will learn a lot from this conversation as much of what Stefan and I discuss can apply to
all types of relationships.
Listen to our conversation here: https://tappingqanda.com/585
I hope you find this useful.
Gene
