Good morning,
There is one phrase above all others that my clients resist tapping along to.
That phrase: "I give myself permission to be easy and gentle with myself"
The reason there is so much resistance to this phrase is because it can feel like we are giving ourselves a pass when we say that.
It can
feel like we are saying:
- It is okay that I didn't do my best
- I don't have take responsibility for my action
- I can make the same mistake in the future
- I am allowed to lower the standards I hold for myself
Even though we aren't saying that it can feel like that is
what we are saying because there is a part of us that not only wants to take responsibility for our past actions, it wants to OVERLY take responsibility for those actions.
That is the situation I found myself in Friday evening.
It was the end
of a very long week (for a lot of reasons) and by 5:30 PM I was feeling disconnected, tired, and fuzzy-headed.
So I decided to listen to my favorite upbeat dance mix playlist and go for a walk.
At first it was exactly what the doctor
ordered.
The cold wind coming off the East River gave my system a shock of energy, the dance mix started to raise my mood, and the next thing I knew my mind was firing on all cylinders.
My mind was flooded with action that I should take. I
know myself well enough to know that I don't remember even my best ideas from my walks. So that I don't have to remember the ideas, my standard operating procedure is to send myself emails from my phone with these ideas.
About twenty minutes into my walk I had sent myself 29 emails. (Yes, I went back and counted.)
Then my mood started to change...
It started to dawn on me that many of the ideas that I had just sent myself were not new ideas but instead ideas I had before.
Some of those ideas were over six months old.
My excitement started to turn to frustration and then anger.
The reason I started to get mad is because I realized how much time and opportunity I had squandered
in the last year.
Normally when I have these realization I feel frustration for not taking action or some version of sadness and grief for the lost time.
Not this time...I was angry at myself.
Like my clients, I was in no mood to be easy and gentle with myself. I was in no mood to see the big picture. I was in no mood to be understanding.
I was flat out pissed off at myself.
So I started to tap
By the time I had gotten home I felt a little better, but far from being positive.
This week in the podcast I share with you exactly how I tapped for
when I had let myself down and I continue the tapping in the podcast. This means you will have the opportunity to see me tap in real time for an issue I was struggling with at the moment.
Even if you aren't frustrated (or angry) at yourself at this moment, I think you will find a number of useful nuggets in the podcast.
Watch the video version and tap: https://youtu.be/c1-BS1VI8-8
Listen to the audio-only version and tap: https://tappingqanda.com/604
I hope you find this approach as useful as I did,
Gene
PS: It is not too late to join us for the Resistance Busters training this Saturday. Full details here: https://archive.aweber.com/tappingqanda/FuXaM
