Good morning,
Over the last few days, I’ve been walking you through the most common reasons tapping doesn’t work the way you hoped it would.
You’ve seen how easy it is to get stuck searching for the perfect words...
To stop once you start to feel better...
To tap only on the surface while the real issue
stays buried...
Or to get lost in your head, overthinking every phrase.
Today, I want to show you the final piece, and it might be the sneakiest one of all.
Even when you know what the issue is and you are fully willing to feel into it, this mistake can still quietly undercut your progress. It shows up regardless of how skilled or experienced you are.
The mistake: Flattening out the issue
I can still remember watching Gary Criag's original EFT videos and learning what Gary called the basic recipe.
In the basic recipe you would come up with a reminder phrase for an issue and then you would say this reminder phrase as you tapped on each point.
Reminder phrases could be "this pain in my knee", "this overwhelm", or "the time they all laughed at me".
This is a brilliant approach to creating change.
The reason I love this so much is because it liberates you while you are tapping from having to focus on too many things. Simply bringing your attention to the title you have given the issue makes it easy to tap on your own.
This is especially true when you first start
out.
Tapping already makes you look and feel weird. In the beginning you are struggling to remember where the points are. By just having one phrase to say outloud over and over again makes the tapping so much simpler AND it helps to overcome the problem I have been talking about all week about knowing where to start.
As powerful as it is and as simple of an entry point it is, it can only take you so far.
There is a significant limitation to this approach: It flattens the emotional charge of the issue, which makes your tapping less specific and much less powerful.
Let's say you are tapping on being afraid to be seen. Using the EFT basic recipe you would tap on "afraid to be seen" and I am certain that would make you feel better.
But our goal is not to feel better.
The goal is to create transformation in a deep enough way that it changes the way we like.
"Afraid to be seen" is not a single fear. It is a bundle of experiences and emotional risks such as:
- afraid to be misunderstood
- afraid to be too much
- afraid to not be
enough
- afraid to take up space
- afraid to be called out
- afraid to be wrong
- afraid to draw attention
- afraid someone will disagree
- afraid they will laugh at me
- afraid to be vulnerable
- afraid to show how much I care
- afraid to look like I am trying too hard
- afraid to make the wrong impression
- afraid to speak before I am fully clear
- afraid to seem weak
- afraid I will be dismissed
- afraid of
being exposed
- afraid to shine
- afraid of looking foolish
- afraid of success and what comes next
- afraid they will think I am arrogant
- afraid they will think I am unqualified
- worried I am stepping outside my role
- worried I will say something I cannot take back
- nervous that I will trigger someone
- unsure if I am allowed to say what I really feel
- feeling like I am taking up too much room
- feeling like I need to hide
part of myself
- hesitant to stand out
- hesitant to claim my truth
- second-guessing every word before I say it
- shrinking myself just to stay safe
- caught between wanting to be visible and fearing what that visibility brings
And that is just the beginning of what is contained in "afraid to be seen".
Using the basic recipe will create some change to many of these, but not the deep change you are looking for.
To move beyond the basic recipe, you need a way to uncover the hidden aspects of the issue, without getting lost or overwhelmed.
That is where my new training Precision Tapping comes in.
During this training you will learn a very simple approach (that comes with a cheatsheet so you are never lost) to reveal the real structure of your issue, organize it clearly, and work through it in a way that creates deep, lasting relief.
AND I don't want to scare you.
Just because we come up with a long list like the one above it doesn't mean we have to tap on all of them. But by having a list like this we will gain clarity on what truly matters, and clear just enough of the issue to
create real momentum.
I want you to move beyond the basic recipe to a place where you have a full understanding of everything you need to clear to have the relief and freedom you want.
When you join us for the Precision Tapping
training you will learn this and so much more.
The training is happening this Sunday on zoom and I am limiting the number of sign ups to 100 to make sure you receive the personal attention you deserve during the training.
Reserve your spot
here and and finally break free from surface-level tapping for good: https://PrecisionTapping.com
I have been working on this training for
over nine months and I can't wait for it to transform your tapping on Sunday.
Gene
PS: You do not need to stay stuck in confusion or overwhelm. Once you know exactly where to tap, everything changes.
Join us here: https://PrecisionTapping.com