[Tapping/EFT Q & A] - Why Goal Setting Doesn't Work!

Published: Mon, 08/01/11

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We have all done it before. Sat down at the beginning of the year or after a conference of some type to craft a list of how our life is going to change.

We come up with grand plans. Some are short term while others are long term.

We can see how our health, relationships, and financial status is going to change.

We feel great.

The future is looking bright.

And then four days later we are back to our old ways.

Three weeks later we don't even know where our goal list is.

Six months later we are cleaning up our desk and find the list and get frustrated that our life hasn't changed.

Goal List Aren't The Problem, You ARE!
That might sound a little harsh, but really it is a good thing. I promise.

Let me explain...

There is a part of our system that has one goal and one goal only: To keep us safe.

This is really a great thing. Because of this subconscious part we stay alerted to possible dangers we face every moment of the day. This becomes problematic when it starts working hard to protect us from things that aren't real dangers.

Public speaking is perfect example of this. One of deepest fears people feel is to speak in public, but intellectually we know it is not dangerous. We know we aren't going to die. We talk to people all the time, but for some reason there is a part of us that prevents us for doing it.

Our system is just trying to keep us safe. The problem is that is keeping us from dangers that aren't real.

Your System Thinks Your Goals Are Dangerous
On the surface that statement seems very silly. But let's think this through. Let's take becoming wealthier as our goal.

This is a great goal. If we were wealthier we won't have to worry about our bills, we could do what we wanted when with wanted with whom ever we wanted, and we could share our wealth to help other.

All of this sounds great, but the whole system isn't on board.

I want you to think about every wealthy person you have seen on TV and the movies or all the wealthy people you have read about in books. With the exception of Daddy Warbucks from Annie (and a few others) there are no wealthy people in stories who are good people.

The wealthy are always greedy, mean, and selfish. This makes great story because we love the plucky underdog working against the wealthy. But because we have heard this story our entire lives there is a part of our system that believes this to be true.

When we decide to become wealth the part of us that wants to be safe springs to our rescue. It says, "You don't want to become wealthy, because wealthy people are mean, greedy, and they hurt others. You don't want that."

This is the reason we procrastinate.

We don't procrastinate because we are lazy. We don't procrastinate because we can't do it. We procrastinate because the system thinks it is keeping us safe without seeing the long view or even seeing what is true.

You Can't Think Your Way Out Of This
The problem with this is we can't talk our system out of its beliefs. If we could talk our selves out of these beliefs then we could do all of those things that we know we can do, but just never get around to doing.

If we could talk ourselves out of these beliefs then I could walk on stage after thinking "They are not really going to laugh you off he stage," or I could simply think, "I am not going to die if she says 'No' when I ask her out" and make the call.

But we can't do that. These beliefs are rooted deep.

But that doesn't mean that can't be uprooted and changed.

Name The Goals! Name The Fears! Knock Them Out! I have been working with clients for years around the area of procrastination and not being able to achieve the goals they want. With the exception of weight release it is what clients come to me for the most. (And to be honest weight release problems in most situations are no different than not reaching your other goals.)

To that end I have created the "The 10 Steps To Getting Out Of Your Own Way To Get What You Want."

In each of the steps has three parts.

First, we name and refine some part of the goal we want. The more specific the goal is the more likely we are going to achieve it. It is one thing to say that

I am going to be wealthy
while it is completely different to say
that I am going to have enough money so that I never have to worry about my bills again, that I can travel when I want, and be able to help others reach there goals as well.
The more we know about the goal the easier it is to find our way to the place we want to be.

Second, we name all the emotions, fears, and limiting beliefs that are preventing us from reaching each part of our goal. Because these beliefs live in our subconscious we aren't always aware of what they are. We only know that we are procrastinating.

In this system we are able to dig deep in to the subconscious and find all the things that are stopping us.

Third, in a step-by-step way we knock this erroneous limiting beliefs out. Like I said before, we can't just think our way out of these beliefs. But by being very systematic in naming each one there are ways we can take them out one at time in a quick and easy way.

What Is In The 10 Step System
The 10 step system is over 5 hours of audios and videos which will teach you
  • How and why we create limiting beliefs
  • How to break your goals down in a why to find every fear and limiting belief that is lurking in your subconscious
  • Tools to knock these limiting beliefs out anytime where. (THIS IS KEY: Not only will this tool set help you when you are sitting at home working through your goal list, but when any fear or limiting belief pops to mind in any situations you will be able to knock it out.)
  • How to recognize when limiting belief are stopping you (because some times we don't even see it)
In addition to the over five hours in instruction you will also receive a digital work book that will take you through the ten steps. Because you can use this system for any goal you have when it is time to go after your next goal you will be able to print out a new copy of the workbook that will easily walk you through the steps.

More Tools To Help You Achieve Your Goals
I want you to be successful. I want to you achieve your goals. In working with clients I have seen a number of very common reasons that we (and I use we because I do it too) self sabotage ourselves. To that end I am adding four audio bonuses that you can use to not out these common beliefs and fears:
  • Resistance To Change - If there weren't resistance to change we would have already changed. Sometimes this resistance has nothing to do with the specific change, but about change in general. When we change we have to react in different ways, we face new challenges, and people see us differently. Sure our lives might not be perfect, but I know what to expect with how things are right now. Change might bring new obstacles that are unpredictable and harder. This audio will make you more comfortable with change. ($13.77 value)
  • Being Open To The Process - It can be scary to think that we are going to uncover the limiting beliefs and fear we have. It is kind of like what is under the bed. We know it is dirty, but if we don't look at it then we don't have know how dirty it really is. Any journey of self-discovery can be scary. This audio will help you to know that is safe and good to do this investigation and work. ($13.77 value)
  • Believing You Are Worthy of Better - Almost daily I talk to clients who don't believe they are worthy of a better life. They believe they have more than their share, that they have squander what they have been given, or that they just aren't worthy of better. If you don't think you are worthy of better you are never going to get better. This audio helps you recognize your worthiness ($13.77 value)
  • Permission To Be Easy With Yourself - We are our own worse critics. We are harder on ourselves than anyone else ever could be. It is good that we want better, but we can be really destructive when we go after ourselves. In this process of transformation it is important that we are easy with ourselves. This doesn't mean that we are slacking and not trying, but that we are looking at ourselves with love and care. In this spirit of love and care we will be able to move forward faster. ($13.77 value)
In addition to the $55.08 in free audios I have one other gift for you.

When we are doing change work of any sort sometimes we are just too close to ourselves to see what is going on. I know this is true for myself. That is why sometimes we need outside help (I know I do). In addition to the free audios I want you to have $40 off a one-on-one phone session with me.

Not only will you get the chance to knock out many limiting beliefs and fears, but you will also leave the session with many more things that you will be able to work on your own from an out side perspective.
That is over $95 in bonuses

A Major SALE
When I do this process with clients it is normally done over six to ten sessions depending on the size of the change. At this point in my practice that is between $690 and $1150 in fees.

I normally sell this system for $189.95

For the next two weeks I am going to sell it for 40% for $113.97

Use discount code "goals"

Order here

Totally Guaranteed
I love this system. I use the steps all the time. I used it when I re-organized my office. I am using it right now as I am working on my largest product launch ever.

(Don't tell my friends this!) I use this system when I am talking to my friends. They think I am giving them the best advice in the world and I am just working them through this system and they don't even know it.

I believe in this system that I want you to spend three months with the system. If it is not helping you to knock out your limiting beliefs and vaulting you towards your goal I want you to have all your money back.

All you need to do is send me an e-mail saying, "I tried it and it didn't work for me." No questions asked I will give you a full refund!

AND you can keep all five bonuses (even the discount off of the session).

Act Before August 15th
The discount price is only going to available until August 15, so act now!

Remember: Use discount code "goals"

To order the system all you need to do is go to:

Order here

These steps have vaulted my clients and myself towards our goals. I know it will work for you.

Blessings,

Gene

PS: Image what it is going to be like not to be held back by your limiting beliefs.




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Gene Monterastelli
Gene Monterastelli is a Baltimore based EFT practitioner. He regularly works with clients in the areas of stress, weight release, limiting beliefs, anxieties, learning disabilities, pain management, and relationship issues.
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