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 Good morning,
When working with clients, I listen very closely to the words they use because I learned a long time ago that our emotional response is dictated by the way in which we describe the world, not the way the world actually is.
One of my favorite examples demonstrating this is of the client who told me years ago: "Everyone at work hates me!"
I can understand how difficult it would be to work in such a hostile environment, and how much dread there would be when the alarm goes off every morning if you faced that situation.
As we continued the conversation, it became clear that everyone at work did NOT hate my client, it was just two people. AND further exploration revealed that this was down to workplace conflict based on communication issues, rather than hate.
My client was emotionally responding to the way he was describing the world (in this case his workplace) and not to the reality of the situation.
The most important word
That's why I always seek detailed clarification from my clients when they use the word should. I have found that "should" usually comes with a lot of emotional baggage!
Not only does should carry emotional baggage because we feel like we are being forced to do something, often there is no real requirement for us to do it at all...we just think that there is.
This week I have a three-pronged approach to helping you to tackle the unnecessary emotions that come along with feeling like you "should" be doing something:
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We explore where our sense of "should" comes from and why it can cause emotional problems, which in turn lead us to not taking action, or taking actions that aren't right for us.
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I share a simple process that you can use to interrogate the actions that you feel you "should" be taking. This process will help you to pin down the origin of a specific should, and whether or not it serves you.
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A simple tap-along to do once you realize you can let go of something you believe you should be doing. (I have included a written out script of the tap-along below the audio player.)
I'm not going to tell you that you should listen to this. Instead I will tell you that if you are looking to stop "shoulds" from controlling your emotions, you will find this useful.
Listen and learn and tap here: http://tappingqanda.com/372
Blessings,
Gene
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