Good morning,

The writer and performer David Rees talks about the idea that helping is only helping when it is done in the manner in which it is requested.

In other words, help of the wrong type is not helpful. On some level this is an obvious point, but I think it's easily overlooked.

I'm sure there are loads of people in your life who think they are being helpful, but because of the type and manner of help they are providing, not only are they not helpful, but they are the exact opposite. Their help actually makes the situation worse.

This is what I like to call "well-meaning incompetence".

Their hearts may be in the right place, but a lack of understanding means their help is not useful, which can cause a few problems.

First, when someone is trying to be helpful and they aren't, they can actually get in our way, making it harder for us to deal with our problem or situation.

Second, those demonstrating well-meaning incompetence are usually the people who are closest to us. It is much harder to tell a family member or close friend to stop their unhelpful efforts because it can be perceived as ungrateful.

In the end, we are responsible for our own lives. That means we need to be able to turn down unhelpful help and ask for the help that we really need.

This week's tap-along audio (plus printable tapping script) is for dealing with and responding to well-meaning incompetence, an issue that has been coming up frequently with my clients over the last few weeks.

You can tap along here: https://tappingqanda.com/386

I hope you find this helpful!

Gene

PS: In addition to having the tapping scripts typed out on the website, I am now starting to include downloadable pdfs of the tapping scripts. This is in large part because of those who support the podcast. Thank you to all my podcast supporters!! If you would like to support the podcast and receive a number of extra bonuses too, you can find all the details here: http://tappingqanda.com/support