Good morning,

One of the reasons that I love living in New York is I keep finding myself in situations where I am in over my head.

I am having experiences that I have never had before, I am surrounded by an incredibly diverse range of people, and I have to face problems and obstacles that I have never encountered.

For me that is thrilling. I love being stretched. I love learning.

I have no problem at all with not knowing what to do, but I know that I am not typical. Others might feel inferior or less than. That is not my experience.

What I find most difficult is when I know exactly what to do and yet I don't do it.

When this happens, I feel the pain twice. First, the pain of not solving the problem at hand. Second, I beat myself up for not taking what I know to be the best action.

This happens a lot with tapping. I will be having a conversation with one of my clients about the last week, they will describe a problem they faced, and I will ask, "Did you tap for it?"

Usually there is a long pause followed by a resigned "no" on the other end of the line.

Let's be clear, I am not asking them this question to shame them. I am trying to understand what happened and how they responded.

They feel shame.

The more we don't reach for the tools that we know to be useful and the more shame we feel for failing in this way, the less likely we are to use the tools in future.

It is a vicious cycle!

This week I have a tap-along to help with the feelings of frustration, failure, and shame for not tapping when we know it would be best for us.

Yes, it is funny that I am asking you to tap for not tapping, but it works.

I have included both a tap-along audio and a script that you can print out.

Tap here: http://tappingqanda.com/?p=12193

I hope are having a great week,

Gene