Good morning,

As you might remember, I taught tapping in a county jail for just over two years.

The class was called "Advanced Anger Management" and there was a specific reason for that title. You might think it was because many people in jail have lots of anger. That was part of it, but the real reason had to do with what was socially acceptable.

Most of the guys I worked with came from rough backgrounds. In that setting the only negative emotion they were allowed to feel was anger. Any other negative emotion was seen as weakness. Jealousy, frustration, depression, fear, and overwhelm were all perceived as weakness.

There was one exception to this. The exception was that they were allowed to feel grief, but only when someone they loved had died. In that context they were given a pass.

I want you to think about the last time you felt grief.

I am willing to bet that you thought of a time when someone you know was either extremely sick or when someone had died.

The reality is that we feel grief whenever we lose connection with something or someone that is important to us.

This could be the end of a relationship, a missed opportunity, or wasted time because we didn't take action sooner. These experiences create genuine grief, but because our definition of grief may be too narrow, we can miss the opportunity to tap for it.

When I am working with my clients and we encounter this type of grief, initially my clients are always shocked, and then it makes total sense.

This week I have a resource to help with the type of grief you're unaware of, and is simmering below the surface. One of the reasons that this week's tool is so necessary is because you aren't looking to tap for this issue...but I'm guessing it's there all the same.

As usual, in addition to the instruction and tap-along audio I have included a printable tapping script for those that prefer that format.

Tap along here: http://tappingqanda.com/331

If you are willing to share, hit reply to this email and let me know what you discovered while doing this tapping.

Gene